Wednesday, March 18, 2009

Should I Tell My Friend? (Draft)

Everyone has a friend. A friend is someone important in your life with whom you have an irrefutable relationship. He keeps you company, and is helpful. There could be a few bumps in a friendship at some time, but friends usually forget about it and move on. One thing that could harm a friendship is when sometimes, one has to truthfully tell his friend something hurtful, like when person A wants to tell his friend B that he's really fat, or when someone else wants to tell his friend that he's aggressive. Almost everyone has gotten into that situation before. While many argue against being honest to your friend, even if you tell them something hurtful, I believe that one should always be honest to his friends. Sharing the truth helps the bond of friendship get stronger and can benefit your friend.
First of all, being truthful to your friend allows your bond of friendship to become stronger. Though telling a friend the truth might be offensive to him, it ensures that you and your friend become closer. Telling each other the truth builds up trust between you, and shows your friend that you could keep secrets that he tells you. It also lets you know to your friend that you care about him, and you want him to know something so he could help himself. If you have a friend who's fat, you could tell him that, not meaning to be malicious, in hopes of him trying to get skinnier, or anything related to that. Confiding the truth to your friend could help you become much closer companions.
Secondly, statements that you make to your friend don't mean to be hurtful, and are just trying to help him. Everything that a friend says to you, offensive or not, is really meant to just help him or to comment on something. Being honest to a friend can allow him to recover from a bad trait or habit. Telling a friend he's aggressive is not meant to get him angry or insult him, but to try to get him to hold his temper more often. Mentioned earlier, friends trust each other and learn from each other. If one gives a friend a suggestion, his friend would most likely trust that person, like friends always do. Comments to friends are really meant just to help.
Sometimes, it's best to keep a secret "secret." However having honesty with your friends is imperative. Being honest to a friend allows to become closer friends, and can help your friend recover from something like a bad trait or habit. Friends are your companions forever, so it's important that you help them and tell the truth. Don't be shy! Telling the truth isn't meant to be hurtful, but just a way to help your friend.

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